From the time a child is born and right through their life span, he or she is constantly developing mentally, socially and physically. Society has a great responsibility in areas of a child's development like their confidence and self-esteem. The more positive children feel about themselves, the greater their self-esteem and the better adjusted they are.

Self-esteem or self-image refers to the perception that people have of themselves. Children base their self-esteem on the opinions they feel other people have of them. A child who gets positive vibes from his/her parents and other people in society will grow up feeling loved, cared for and have a high self-esteem. On the other hand, children who are constantly subjected to criticism, made to feel that they can never do anything right, not appreciated and excluded will end up with a very low self-esteem.

Children do not acquire self-esteem automatically. Self-esteem is built over a period of time. A child may feel good about themselves at home but not quite have such a positive self-image in the company of his friends or at school. It is important for parents to realise that a child needs to feel that they are special and are appreciated. It is good when a parent can make a child realise that regardless of what happens outside the home, within the home environment they have the full support of their parents.

There are a few conditions which ensure that self-esteem remains high - remember the word 'IMAGE'.

Included - your child needs to feel included at home, in the community or in school. As a parent, you can ensure that at least at home he feels a sense of belonging and is included and an integral part of the home life.

Mirror - whatever you think of your child and the way you interact with him/her will be mirrored in his/her behaviour and self-esteem. So, if you are constantly negative with him/her, his/her self-esteem will mirror this and he/she will have a low opinion of himself.

Appreciation - words like 'thank you', 'well done' go a long way in rebuilding someone's broken self-image and their lack of self-worth. It shows that you as a parent care and appreciate what your child has done.

Good feelings - Make your child feel good about themselves with praise and love.

Encouragement - Your child may not be confident about doing something. Encourage them to go ahead and make them feel supported.

Parents play an extremely important role in a child's development. Taking your child seriously, appreciating them and giving them love and encouragement will help develop their character and personality so that they grow up to be balanced and confident individuals with a high sense of self-esteem.

Be positive and loving.